Sturgis, Daytona Question

I am concerned about my b/f going to this event. It seems very much like a spring break. Can others please give me some info and tell me either yes, i have some right to be concerned or no i dont...i feel if he is going to this type of place, i should be going also. I dont think he sees it as this.

I am concerned about my b/f going to this event. It seems very much like a spring break. Can others please give me some info and tell me either yes, i have some right to be concerned or no i dont...i feel if he is going to this type of place, i should be going also. I dont think he sees it as this.

I think that your major concern is as to why he would want to go by himself as opposed to taking his girlfriend along. Seems to me like there may be some trust issues involved here.

Sincerely
Dr. Buford

First off, welcome to the board SunMotor.

As far as the rally question, I guess it all boils down to whether or not he feels that you are up for they type of activities that can go on at these rallys, or whether you will be a damper on his activities. We don't know you, and we don't know him, so it's impossible for us to judge *why*.

Have you ever been to a biker rally of any sort? They can be very roudy, intense events depending on what the participant chooses to do. In my case, my girlfriend wouldn't let me go by myself, but it is not because of any trust issues, it's because she enjoys the balls to the walls, biker rally kind of hell raising that I inevitably get into when I go to these events. She's right there beside me raising hell the whole time. I don't push her comfort levels, and she doesn't drag me down, because she loves it as much as I do.

If there are trust issues, put those aside for a moment. These events are not like spring break from the standpoint of a bunch of young single kids looking to get laid. At these events the guys will outnumber the girls 3-1, and most of the girls will be with guys already anyway. The pickings will be slim for "getting some strange".

You should probably evaluate what he expects to get out of the rally activity wise, and what *you* would expect to get if you went. If those anticipations are radically different, then you'll know where he's coming from when he wants to go by himself.

Maybe a compromise is in order. You let him go off for a rowdy week of hell raising in exchange for him taking you somewhere where there is something you would enjoy either before or after.

Have you asked to go? Have you told him you feel this way?

If my boyfriend was going, you could damn well rest assured I'd be going. Not necessarily to spend time with him (LOL) but I'd really like to go to Sturgis.

He made it clear last year basically saying no you are not going...and then recently when i brought it up, he said almost in an annoyed way that if i am that curious, then spend my money on airfare and fly down to meet him.. i am thinking of bringing this and say i am tempted to take you up on that even though when he said it, he was annoyed almost like he doesnt want me there.

I feel i want to go b/c i feel like this is not right if you are in a relationship or married and atleast bring your significant other..and the other reason is to experience it myself..and maybe then i will see..its not so bad..or just to be able to form my opinion...from the pics i see, it looks very crazy though...

If you feel you have to checkup /follow him now WHAT will it be like later if you marry him. Follow him into toilet to see if he is "abusing" himself??
Let go of the GREEN EYED MONSTER now!!!

Call up some girlfriends and go with them. Bike rallies are man smorgasbords. Go there with your friends, have fun, and look for a new man. Look for one who likes to do things with you this time. Because from the way you are wording your situation, it sounds to me like he doesn't want you there. I don't know why and I won't bother to speculate.

I dunno what to tell you. I'm always kinda amazed when women post stuff like this on bike sites. What exactly do you expect men on bike sites to tell you? I mean, that is who makes up the bulk of bike site memberships. And I kinda think most of them on here are currently biting their tongues with this one.

Don't you have friends you can talk to about this who know you and your boyfriend and know your situation?

We don't know you. We don't know him. We don't know your situation. Why you would want advice from us kinda baffles me.

Two things come to mind here..and this is thebighop strictly speaking....
1...I wouldn't want my old lady getting hit on by every drunken ass hole in Daytona.
2....I wouldn't want the "guys" to see how hen-pecked I am....
Just my :2cents:

He made it clear last year basically saying no you are not going...and then recently when i brought it up, he said almost in an annoyed way that if i am that curious, then spend my money on airfare and fly down to meet him.. i am thinking of bringing this and say i am tempted to take you up on that even though when he said it, he was annoyed almost like he doesnt want me there.

I feel i want to go b/c i feel like this is not right if you are in a relationship or married and atleast bring your significant other..and the other reason is to experience it myself..and maybe then i will see..its not so bad..or just to be able to form my opinion...from the pics i see, it looks very crazy though...

sunmoto, I agree with what aja said, I do not think we are the people to ask about this. If you want to go then go, if not let him go without you.

Two things come to mind here..and this is thebighop strictly speaking....
1...I wouldn't want my old lady getting hit on by every drunken ass hole in Daytona.
2....I wouldn't want the "guys" to see how hen-pecked I am....
Just my :2cents:

I was kinda thinking that he wanted to be one of those drunken assholes.

Then Roadkill and I thought of a few more possibilities. Which I won't share. I said I wouldn't speculate but we were bored. And picking on Bigwater and Tugs was getting kinda old.

For a lot of men events like Sturgis and Daytona are time to get out and party with the "boys". When I go to Sturgis we ride, gamble in Deadwood, watch an occasional wet t-shirt contest :) , and drink way to much in the campground.
The one time I brought my wife she- hated to ride her bike because of all the traffic, doesn't gamble, no interest in wet t-shirt contests :( , and found the campgrounds too loud and obnoxious for her tastes.
Plenty of women love these events and can party with the best of them, other women hate them and have no fun at all.
Maybe your boyfriend knows you won't enjoy this type of event.

Tell him that you are glad that he wants to go. And that if it makes him happy it makes you happy. Then also tell him that you and a group of your female friends are going to Vegas for a week, alone, without any of your husbands or girl friends. See what type of reaction you get. If it is not a trust issue, he will say enjoy yourself. If it is a trust issue, he will be a jerk about it. Either way you will get a reaction.

But I do have to agree, asking this question on a male dominated biker forum is like asking if anybody wants a beer at an AA meeting.

.But I do have to agree, asking this question on a male dominated biker forum is like asking if anybody wants a beer at an AA meeting.
Hey now!!!!

Not fair!!!

Don't compare us sicko alky's to some love lorn bike week widow...

A better comparison would be ...."asking if a cop would want a donut"
:sucks:

I Think Zanidy Changed Her Name And Got A Boyfriend.

I Think Zanidy Changed Her Name And Got A Boyfriend.

I just spit my coffee all over my monitor because I was laughing my ass off.

Thanks Lewy.

Ditto Lewy...
Hey dude...welcome back. Good to hear from ya!!!
How are the trip plans coming along?

I Think Zanidy Changed Her Name And Got A Boyfriend.

That would 'splain why he don't want her tagging along to bike week....
Keen observation on your part there Lewy!!!
You sure you ain't with the KGB?...LOL

That would 'splain why he don't want her tagging along to bike week....
Keen observation on your part there Lewy!!!
You sure you ain't with the KGB?...LOL

Scotland Yard

Oh yeah...thats right!!!!
He's one of them Boobies...er ah Bobbies....

Oh yeah...thats right!!!!
He's one of them Boobies...er ah Bobbies....

hahaha

You do know that was an extremely sarcastic hahaha, don't you?

rolling my eyes . . .