Well it's finally happening

Aleta and I have been together for 7 years now. The interaction between our individual financial situations, property ownership, business ownership, bank accounts, etc has become so complex that if one of us dies it would take the probate court years to untangle it all. Georgia doesn't recognize common law marriage, so we couldn't go that route... so, on December 8 we're gonna f*$% up a perfectly good relationship and get married. The date has no significance other than it's the first date the probate judge has open, and the last date before we go to her mom's house for Christmas where I'll have to spend another week on the couch if we aren't married yet... and that couch SUCKS. I've spent every Christmas week on it for the last six years.

Say a prayer for me guys, and if I don't surface again, it was nice knowing you.

It could be worse. She could be pregnant. (LOL)

And no more couch for you. I mean, c'mon now . . . doesn't THAT just make it worth it?

If you come over to Daytona, I'll buy you a celebration dinner. (I'll make BW stay on the couch at my place just to be rotten.)

Congrats! That's cool. I hope the best for ya.

Congratulations!

It could be worse. She could be pregnant. (LOL)

And no more couch for you. I mean, c'mon now . . . doesn't THAT just make it worth it?

If you come over to Daytona, I'll buy you a celebration dinner. (I'll make BW stay on the couch at my place just to be rotten.)

Well if she ends up pregnant, it'll be the biggest miracle since the birth of Christ, because she had her ovaries removed due to cancer ten years ago.

We weighed the advantages/disadvantages from the tax standpoint of staying single till after the first of the year, or getting married now, and it was kind of a wash. Once we factored the couch thing in over Christmas though, the scales weighed heavily in going ahead and getting it over with now.

And Aja, if you're couch isn't at least 7 ft long, I won't be visiting you. That's the problem I have with sleeping on Aleta's mom's couch. It's not that the cushions are that uncomfortable, it's just that the couch is only about 5'6" long, and I'm 6'4" tall. Hell, I crowd Aleta out of a king size bed sometimes due to my selfish overindulgent sleeping habits. put me in a 2' wide 5-1/2 foot long couch for a week, and I get grumpy. Basically I'm getting married so I don't have to sleep on that F'ing couch for another week.

Congrats to you on this decision, but as a wise man once told me and my wife 45 yrs ago in a bar in Pa., "Marriage is a good way to screw up a good relationship". My wifes hairdresser and her partner lived together for 25 yrs and this spring they tied the knot ,5 weeks later he is living in his camp and she is at their house alone. Hope this not something that will happen in your case. But now you are "thinking with your dipstick" . Good luck in your future

Yeah Jimbear, believe me... I've already considered that. Not thinking with my dipstick here. We're 56 and 46, so the stick don't get dipped that often anyway. Combined between the two of us we have 5 previous marriages, and we both agree that in every case, getting married was what screwed the relationships up.

The couch thing is a valid concern, but more of a joke than anything else. The legal entanglements we've gotten ourselves in over seven years of living together, co-mingling funds, property, business, etc. is the real reason for the decision.

In our minds we're already married... I introduce her to other people as my wife, she introduces me as her husband. It's just that the state doesn't recognize that. We went to update our wills last week and spent about 8 hours on it and were no closer to having everything untangled than we were when we started. If we get married then it'll just be automatic. What's mine is hers and what's hers is hers :)

Seriously though, if either one of us dies and we have a legal marriage, there won't be much need for a complicated probate process and letting a judge take years to figure out how to distribute the property. That was our primary thought process in deciding to go ahead and get married. I seriously doubt that it will change our personal relationship one bit, but it'll certainly ease our financial relationship a lot. We've been together for so long that there's not much that could change on a personal level... except I don't have to sleep on her mom's couch ;)

Hey BW, I meant no dis-respect with my post,really should not have posted as I did, Not knowing you or your intended other than what I read on the fourm,and i know that a lot of it is made in jest. I do wish you and your now and future wife the best of everything in the years ahead.

No disrespect taken bud. I got a chuckle out of your "thinking with your dipstick" post when I read it. Sometimes I tend to over explain myself.

We are "cool" bro